Like most everyone, I love my children with every fiber of my being. And like most everyone, they drive me crazy. Recently, I'm struggling with being more patient. Or some patient. Kind of. Okay, let me be honest - my patience sucks. I have lost my cool so much lately that its not in the realm of omgineedaglassofwine but on to wondering what the heck I'm going to do about this shiz for real.
To be fair to myself, it is common knowledge that Will could make the Pope swear and Mother Theresa pound her fist. Even so, I'm sad about the way I've handled conflict with them. I know that shouting is not the answer. That disciplining them out of anger is destructive and yet I do it anyway. I'm upset, they're upset and the tone of the home is ruined. This issue is a huge source of pain and frustration for all of us, and I'm just at a loss.
I've been reading what other people do about this. Apparently, I'm not alone as the second Google result was my topic "how to be more patient with my kids". Some of the advice I think is sound, some is too syrupy for my taste and some is just stupid. One of the things I thought was most helpful was to remove stress where you can. For example, if getting ready for school causes blowups like in my house, simply add 15 minutes to your routine. We're all sleep deprived and me time deprived, but really, most people can spare an extra 15 minutes. I know I'm sooo much more equipped to deal with kiddo insanity when I'm not in such a time crunch myself.
Apologizing to my children is easy - I'm a softie anyway and feel badly pretty much the instant I shut my mouth. But I want a true change. Apologies become hollow when the offense is repeated and as someone who was treated badly as a child, that is the absolute last thing I want to do to my children. If you, my most favorite reader people, would leave advice or insight in the comments, I'd be very interested to read it. And if you don't have advice but just want to let me know that I'm not the only lunatic on the block that would be awesome too!