Sunday, February 12, 2012

Valentine Schmalentine

Several years ago, I told my husband that I no longer wanted to participate in Valentine's Day. He looked at me warily, like he was waiting for the trap to be sprung. Seriously, I swore to him, I mean it! We love each other, we both know it, and I really could care less about the so-called holiday, I told him. Let's just forget the whole thing! He agreed, cautiously, but still kept one eye on me, convinced this was some kind of gotcha moment. Not so, I promised, I'm dead serious.

As much as I'd like to say that it's because it's commercialized, or fake, or whatever, I'm just not that cool. The real reason I don't like Valentine's Day is because I cannot emote on command. Really, it's bad. The stuff I write in cards is horribly pathetic on a regular day, the stuff I try to come up with on Valentine's Day are words of legend, and not in a good way. The pressure of being romantic, sexy, lovey-dovey, or whatever is just too much pressure for my ridiculous psyche and what you get is a huge lump of stupid. 

We usually do a little something for the kids, and help them make valentine's for their classmates but that is about it. I have no desire to elbow my way through a crowded restaurant so that hubs and I can gaze into each others eyes, I don't need any overpriced flowers, and I can PROMISE you that I really do not want a stuffed animal. I would accept candy, but that is only because I like to eat, and it should be from the sale rack the day after. My husband doesn't care about any of those things either, so we've just agreed to let it go.

Now please note that I am only saying this is what we do. I'm not saying that anyone shouldn't enjoy V-Day as they see fit, or not. What I am curious about is what the rest of you guys think. Do you like Valentine's Day? Or do you, like me, just try to pretend it isn't happening?

PS. Maybe now that I've put it down for the whole entire innerweb to see, my husband will finally believe me. He still gets tweaky around this time every February - I think he still thinks I'm messing with him and that he is going to walk into a romantic apocalypse at any given moment.

PPS. Which now that I think about it, is kind of entertaining. Hmmm...



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8 comments:

Rick said...

If I were the husband I'd worry. From years of experience, I learned after hearing the words, I no longer want to participate in Valentine's Day, it's a trap. Husbands have been made gun shy when those words are uttered. They know, damned if you do, damned if you don't. It's a trap and he knows. But what to do? He doesn't know. I feel sorry for the guy.

bereccah5 said...

No worries to be had here! I have not backtracked on this one bit. He'll relax eventually I guess. :-)

leah said...

I feel exactly the same way. I LOVE it for the kids... totally fun lovey holiday, but I could care less. I don't like crowds, I don't like to waste money. Tommy sent flowers for our anniversary.... love him, but kinda wish he hadn't wasted the money. I'm just not that insecure.

bereccah5 said...

I hear you. I mean, I got super excited about a publix bouquet awhile back because it was for no reason, beautiful and eight bucks! We're just practical chicks. :-)

Hatton (freshmom.com) said...

I tried to comment earlier but I must have done something wrong! I'm so excited to find your blog and thanks for your comment on my post on scary mommy! I'm not big on valentines day either.

bereccah5 said...

There you are! Your comment got caught up somewhere - I got an email, but then it wasn't there! Anyway, thanks so much for coming by - I loved your post and hope to see you around again. Oh, and I can promise you that no one does bitchy like a southern woman. Makes the rest of the country look like amateur hour. ;-)

Claire Lopez said...

Now that VD is over, maybe he can relax....til next year!

bereccah5 said...

Yeah, I think he's over it. The day of, we were in the kitchen and he goes,"Happy Stupidtines Day." HA! So, there's that.